Yay! Everything crossed off and I’ve got on top of “the list”. Also – the interview went well and I’ve been offered a place on the IBM Extreme Blue Internship program this summer, which I’ve accepted. So – a good week. A really good week!
How’s this month been? I’ve made progress on my work, but not as much as I want to. I’m doing more exercise, but not as much as I want to. In all, I guess things are going okay. Not great, but not bad either. Everything is still possible. For February, I think it’s just a case of keep going, ramp up where possible.
Get a Great Job
So far:
Get an appointment at the careers service to go over my CV – decided to get my CV written by Maureen McCann at MyPromotion. Currently have first draft.
Send it out to tech people I know and respect and ask for feedback – have some feedback, waiting for more
Ask people I’ve worked with to recommend me on LinkedIn (if they’re comfortable with that)
Ask people for recommendations for companies to apply to, and referrals where possible (already started on this)
Next:
Finalize resume
Send to people who’ve shown an interest
Get a Paper Published
Meet with supervisors to talk about what I have so far – Friday
Incorporate suggestions
Submit paper, and hope it gets accepted
Graduate
Determine how much more work I need to do.
Do it.
Create More Stuff
Get together with other people, Processing Jam next week is a good start – was fun! Need to schedule another
Make time for the things that are would-like-to rather than must do – not doing great at this.
Be in Better Shape
Go back to kickboxing
Work up to 3 times a week – at 2 plus gym twice. OK.
Organize transport, and take ski instructor job
Cross-country ski – need to go again
On days I haven’t exercised, force myself to put on my swimsuit and walk to the pool before I go to bed (inspired by this post by Penelope Trunk) – failing miserably at this
Be More Balanced
End my week on Friday, so I don’t frantically try and complete things over the weekend.– finding this really helpful.
Ski at least one day at the weekend (during the season)– Going OK! Missed one.
No working after dinner, use that time to stay current (blogs, twitter), exercise, play wii fit, spend time with friends, or relax.– liking this. Have ended up working maybe once in the evening, not much.
Make More Time for my Boyfriend
Regular date night – can’t seem to coordinate schedule for this, but we are trying to spend an evening one day a week together
Watch movies that he wants to see – watched The Royal Tenenbaums, enjoyed it.
This is where I live. In this space between what I could achieve in a given day, or week, or month… and what in my imagination I’m capable of.
Of course in my imagination I never kick back and watch a movie with my friend and a bottle of wine (honestly, this rarely happens in reality either… probably why I felt so horrible this morning). I never get burnt out from training hard and sleep for 10 hours straight. I never say “You know, I’m not having a great week but one thing I could control is my hair” and bunk off the things I should be doing to get a haircut. I never get so overwhelmed by “the list” that I have to take time to breathe deeply and try and decide what my priority one is. I never stare at the blank page where I’m supposed to be outlining the plan for my upcoming talk and feel completely and utterly uninspired. In my imagination, I don’t get things to nearly finished, get interrupted and struggle to come back to them.
Other people don’t feature much in my imagination. Whilst I like working with others and I’m pretty social, there’s such a huge overhead and level of unpredictability when other people are involved. I struggle with this because it’s impossible to predict and hard to plan for. Because everyone manages their schedule and their list differently, it’s difficult to know when you should remind someone and when that would imply that they’re disorganized.
I’m the same, as usual when I’m a little stressed out the first thing to go is my email. So if you’ve sent me something that is urgent, or very quick to reply to, you’ll probably have a response. If not – I’m going to level with you here – it could be a while. And so there will be a disconnect if someone has sent me something they perceive to be urgent, but didn’t seem that way to me.
It’s not even February, but my inbox is out of control. I’m so behind on “the list” I can’t get a handle on what needs to be done anymore.
What do I need? A couple of days by myself to pull myself and my organizational system together.
I’m not going to get this.
So what’s the alternative?
Saying no.
To the endless demands that show up in my inbox, I’m sorry but I’m at capacity right now. I expect to get back to you mid-February.
To other things, too. What more can I eliminate? How can I better manage my interactions with others so that they are not time-sensitive? What’s the time commitment above which I should delegate (below which the delegation is more effort than I save)?
Other people are better at this, and I keep finding myself in situations where they say no and it falls on me or a commitment is broken (as was the case this morning). I need to balance my need to be firmer, with the fact that I hate to let people down.
