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Coping Mechanisms and Unlearned Skills
→: Coping Mechanisms and Unlearned SkillsOne of the things I’ve been meditating on since escaping the tech industry is what skills do you not acquire when the main skills you are learning are how to cope in a bad situation? And do you have to unlearn them to go back? The other thing about environments where we “cope” rather than “thrive”…
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Social Media Coping Strategies
→: Social Media Coping StrategiesOver the last year the way I use social media has changed. It wasn’t dramatic. Just time passed… how much I was willing to share decreased, I started to feel anxious at times. The most vicious things normally end up in the moderation queue of my blog, and I could probably still quote things long…
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Codes of Conduct and Worthless Manfeelings
→: Codes of Conduct and Worthless ManfeelingsEarlier this year I pulled out of a conference because the organiser and I disagreed on code of conducts. Specifically I thought there should be one, and he did not. He did eventually add one, but refused to define unacceptable behaviour. Myself and another woman pulled out. This whole experience was really upsetting to me,…
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Magic Solutions to Materialize Women at 3 Days Notice
→: Magic Solutions to Materialize Women at 3 Days NoticeI was annoyed recently, because a conglomerate organising a conference pinged us (and every other group that might yield “diverse” speakers) to promote their CfP… three days before closing. I sent them a series of comments on how leaving it to the last minute like that wasn’t helpful. As Chiu-Ki put it “we’re not a magic…
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Uncomfortable Conversations About Money
→: Uncomfortable Conversations About MoneyWhen it comes to speaking at a conference which involves some travel costs, there are four* main options: The conference pays. The company you work for pays. You pay. You don’t go. The Conference Pays I think this, announced up front, is the most inclusive option because it means you don’t have to talk about…
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Problems with Resources
→: Problems with ResourcesSeveral of my computers have been hit with hammers. I tell them they should be flattered by the complement, but they still have dents in them. Computers in Dave’s office keep overheating. But I don’t think it’s anything to do with Dave having the heating on high. Many of my processes are failing with specific…
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Pitfalls for Men Talking About Diversity
→: Pitfalls for Men Talking About DiversityLately I’ve been watching more men give talks about diversity. Personally I’m in favour of this, because 1) If women could fix this, we would have by now – making “diversity” a “woman’s issue” is a way of perpetuating the status quo. And 2) there is clearly a subset of men who won’t listen to…
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The Story Behind The Newsletter
→: The Story Behind The NewsletterWhen I decided to leave my corporate tech job, public speaking was part of The Plan. However I didn’t really know where to begin. I built a talk from some of my more popular blogposts and started submitting it to CfPs I happened across. Luckily, I met up with Chiu-Ki on a trip to the…
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Discoveries About OSS Culture
→: Discoveries About OSS CultureI was hanging out with an OSS-dude (OSS = Open Source Software) for a while, and I learned a couple of things. Firstly – don’t try and buy committed OSS types books. It’s a complete nightmare. Secondly – I’ve reached a better understanding of harassment and open source. And particularly the pushback, which comes from…