women in computer science
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Friends, Allies
→: Friends, AlliesAfter my recent experiences, I’ve been thinking a lot about men. Not in the way where I think they are all misogynistic, sexually assaulting jerks (although yes, my idea of the prevalence of these things is off – I hope). But also just clinging to those in my life who I know have a healthy respect for other humans,…
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Fear and Safety
→: Fear and SafetyMy friend and I went to Bangkok for the long weekend. We relaxed in the spa, swam in the outdoor pool, explored the shops, got lost and wondered around the city. Rode in a tuk tuk. I wondered, why it was that we spent more time at the hotel than I would usually. Than I…
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Stories We Don’t Tell
→: Stories We Don’t TellOver the past year, I feel like I’ve been working through the stages of grief about being a women in tech, and I’ve not been blogging because I couldn’t find the words to share the story I wanted to tell. I’ve denied the extent of the problem. I’ve got angry. I’ve bargained. I’ve cried, and…
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Fighting Monsters
→: Fighting MonstersA long time ago, when I was training in China, I was struggling to learn a form correctly and my master threatened me with no food until I got it right. This seemed like a terrible idea, I mean, it was hard enough to focus and be physical on the small amount of food (mostly…
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Things Being A Woman In Tech Is Like: Flying Economy
→: Things Being A Woman In Tech Is Like: Flying EconomyTell me that I am not alone, in sometimes wanting to run away to an unspecified location, thereafter to never encounter a nerdy boy again. It is at times deeply exhausting to live in a world where the other inhabitants think it’s a meritocracy but you know, and studies show, it isn’t. It’s like flying…
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Why I Cut Down On Public Speaking
→: Why I Cut Down On Public SpeakingLast year, I gave a lot of talks. I averaged about one a month, but it wasn’t spread out evenly. In October, I gave four talks. And then I stopped, and since then I’ve been putting off talks I intended to say yes to, or just outright saying no (I know, unlike me). There were…
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On Feeling Uninspiring
→: On Feeling UninspiringA couple of weeks ago, I got an email from a friend about a project she’s involved in. She was looking for me to share my “inspiring story” on being a technical woman. I said no. Said, got nothing inspiring to say right now. Can’t. Do. It. And she gave me a pep talk, and…
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Intellectual Feminism, and Sexist Pigs
→: Intellectual Feminism, and Sexist PigsI love Big Bang Theory (Amazon), but, and bear with me for a depressing though of the day, I think Sheldon is the most feminist of all the guys. Of course, that is in large part because he despises everyone as being beneath him, but the people who has has a little-more-than-grudging respect for include: Amy Farrah Fowler,…
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Encouragement Beats Re-tweeting
→: Encouragement Beats Re-tweetingI read an article today about why there aren’t enough women in tech. It says, women doubt themselves. This hurts their chances of ending up in Science or Engineering. They think they can’t do it. It bored me. I am so tired of reading this. We know it. I must read an article a month…