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Success Metrics for Being Lost

For the last week I’ve been thinking that I should post some kind of “this is how my break is going!” update. OK, more than the last week, I had some thought of doing one every week but the poor internet in Bali was a handy excuse to scratch that. But I’ve struggled to have […]

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On Burnout

I am so burnt out right now. There’s a long list of reasons for that, but a lot of it is just the industry and how women are treated – as one of my friends put it “dudes are just a trigger warning for you at this point”. And this is exacerbated by not feeling […]

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The Aftermath

It is hard to follow a post like my last one. It seems like it needs to be followed by something cheery, like, “I woke up this morning feeling GREAT and everything is now OK!” or “I fixed myself using <magic trick>”. But there is no waking up one morning feeling great, and there is […]

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Being !=OK

In January, I was killing it. I’d been promoted, work was going well, I lived in a city I love, hanging out with an awesome group of friends and regular girls nights, and I was basically back to “normal” – athletic, but curvy, after 2 major injuries and, y’know, living in Suburbia and having to […]

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Heard about this blog via the lovely Erica, and since I wonder if I have enough local friends (and, obviously moving, the answer will once again be no) seemed like the book (Amazon) would be just the thing for one of the many, many long haul flights I’m taking. I really enjoyed it, very honest and funny. […]

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How To Leave a Country

For someone who seems to have an incurable fear of forms, I move too often. There is nothing I have found so far that has more bureaucracy than moving, especially if that move requires you to obtain a visa. Dealing with the logistics is time-consuming and stressful, but not hard. Dispose of assets: car (the last tie […]

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Diva Problems

On a recent Monday morning, I was barely awake and not keen to get up, I thought, “wow, I feel terrible. Why do I feel so terrible?” And a little voice in my head answered, “it’s because you flew economy on Friday”. And then I hated myself. I mean, sure, if I’d flown economy from […]

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Love and Other Fairy Tales

It’s weird being single again. When things weren’t great, when I wasn’t happy – when I didn’t think things would work out, I never thought ahead to this point. Saturday night with nothing to do. Putting a friend down as my emergency contact on a form. It’s good. I’m not down about it. I was […]

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It’s Not a Disaster

Travel gives me a lot of time to think, the planes, the airports, the queues. And the jetlag – there’s no lonelier time than four in the morning, wherever you happen to be. Probably clear from my last post that I’ve had a lot to think about, lately. Still going to have to be enigmatic and elusive […]

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Losing Anchors

When I get stressed travelling, I have this mantra that I repeat to myself: Passport, wallet, keys, cellphone. Everything else you can buy. It doesn’t mean that losing/forgetting something else might not be expensive, or a giant pain to fix. The point is, that only the loss of some things is a genuine crisis. I […]