My boyfriend is supposed to be moving out to Canada at the start of April, but his visa application got held up. He was contemplating keeping his apartment in London and staying another month. I said,
Don’t do that. Spending an extra month living in limbo will suck.
I give great advice (sometimes). I should really take it myself.
Meanwhile, one of my friends is having a crisis. It’s been brewing for over a month, probably two, but she wasn’t ready to accept it. Eventually she put her hands up and admitted she was in trouble – and all these people were there, willing to help her. That extra month waiting though? That’s made her situation more difficult.
Currently, I’m reading Good to Great, and I realized I too have been putting things on hold lately. I meant to be back in the gym once I finished jittering about, and I was, only then I was sick, so I was waiting to feel better, and now I’m heading to California again. Next week is always the week when I’m going to get on top of my email.
Realization: it’s not that I’m not working out when I’m in 4 different places in 8 days, nor is it that I’m not working out when I’m running a fever. It’s not that I’m not on top of my email today. It’s the mentality of – something is going to change, and I’m going to be back on top of things.
I’m trying to change my attitude to one where I say, “today is the day I’m improving my fitness”. Things can still be hectic, and that’s fine, I just need to reframe it so that it’s the hectic-ness disrupting my normal – as minimally as possible – rather than me putting normal in hold waiting for things to be different.
No doubt things will be different when I get back from California… But there won’t necessarily be any less going on!
What have you been putting off taking action on? Can you reframe it as something you are doing today? Let me know in the comments – in the meantime, I’ll be catching up on my email.
4 replies on “Stop Waiting; It’s Today”
You’re always in my head, I swear. 🙂 I keep telling myself, “This too shall pass” or “In a couple years things will get better.” No. They won’t. I have to make shit real and awesome now. One good thing is the working out with a trainer. It’s helped changed my routine and my life now, in the moment. It also made me realize I was waiting around for happiness. So I signed up for match.com. It seems small, but for me, it was a big deal. Next up = getting my coursework figured out so I can hurry the hell up and get this degree over with. 🙂
It’s so easy to do that in grad school – when I graduate I’ll be able to afford X. I’ll have time for Y. I’ll take a frickin’ holiday!
I’m so much happier since I graduated, and yes, I definitely have more money but the list of things I didn’t do because I couldn’t afford it is way longer than my paycheck so far! And I don’t have any more time… although I do enjoy the free time I take more because of the lack of guilt 😉
Good luck with match.com. I’ll try to stop wondering around your mind haha 😉
I have been putting off exercise, full-stop. I haven’t taken a run in three weeks. Guilt overcomes me. The final final release date for me in work is looking like April 6th – and then I am going to run like Forest Gump (you can quote me on that).
I was putting off working on my novel too, but I made some space for it, and am feeling a little empowered by that.
And I was putting off working this weekend, but I sat down to do it now. And I am reading your blog, so I guess I am still not exactly succeeding – I’m signing off and going back to work!
April 6th is soon! I hope things will be better post release 🙂
I read your blog post about your novel. It’s really awesome you’re making progress on that. Everyone needs to have time for /just them/ to stay sane.