Accidentally in Code

Tag: people

  • Saying No

    I’m terrible at this. It’s my biggest weakness, but also – the source of so many experiences and opportunities. So I can’t embrace saying no fully for fear of missing out. But certain things lately have made me think that I need to say no more. Like, crossing campus on a hectic day when I…

  • Expat Adventures in Romance

    I’m scheduling this post for Valentines day, when I’m sure the blogosphere (and everywhere else) will be full of romance. I’m not a big fan of Valentines day, myself. Last year I was in Japan with the Passive Aggressive, wondering if her inability to even go to the corner shop by herself would cause me…

  • 5 Things I Learned at Boarding School

    For my last two years of school, I was at a fancy English boarding school. This is not something I write about or talk about much, because it was not the most enjoyable experience (so, normal for high school!). However like everything, there are some important lessons for life that I got out of it.…

  • Lessons Learned from a Recent Screw-up

    I offended someone recently. I really would never have meant to do that… but unfortunately I did. Does spending some much time with people who are “on the spectrum” make you less attuned to people’s feelings yourself? I wonder. Anyway, I guess to summarize I thought I was suggesting something that would be easier for…

  • Decisions

    Decisions

    I have a confession about almost every big decision I’ve made. Going to Edinburgh, working in the US the first time, training in China, coming to Canada. Someone else suggested it to me. The other big things have mostly been opportunities, that I’ve said yes to. Each one of these has taken me outside of…

  • Perspectives on Perfectionism

    Perspectives on Perfectionism

    I was reading random posts on Penelope Trunk’s blog last week when I came across one on perfectionism. Basically, she was saying that perfectionism is stupid. I have some perfectionist tendencies, but I’m not going to argue with this. I think perfectionism can mean you avoid the feeling of OK, what next, what’s inspiring me…

  • Reaching Out

    Yesterday Sacha Chua put up a blogpost entitled “What can I help you learn? Looking for mentees“. I’d been following her blog for a while now, and got out of the lurking stage and started commenting periodically, so of course I was like, “me me me!”. If you don’t read Sacha’s blog, go and grab…

  • Productivity for Minions

    Google this, there’s nothing useful. Someone needs to write a book on this! I’d buy it, would you? If not, hopefully it’s because you’re not a minion. Grad students are basically minions. I am the minion of my supervisor (luckily he’s nice), the minion of any prof whose course I take (to a lesser extent)…

  • Working With People Who Suck

    This post has been formulating in my head for a while now, as I thought how much I loved 7 Habits and The 4-Hour Work Week (Amazon) and all the other great stuff I’m reading. However there’s one question they don’t seem to answer – what if you have to work with someone who sucks?…