Book: It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single

It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single (Amazon) is a series of essays and anecdotes around themes. The themes are the things that you tell yourself, or that people tell you, about why it is you’re still alone. Mostly I found it… reassuring. The thoughts of “oh I’m inadequate” or “I need to do X, Y […]

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Review: 40 Days of Dating

40 Days of Dating

Sometimes I feel like we’re two aliens, from different planets with different languages, trying to communicate via Skype without electricity. Sigh. I spent a few hours over the break reading the 40 Days of Dating project. Two designers, friends with opposite attitudes to (and problems in) relationships conduct an experiment in dating each other, for 40 days. […]

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The List

My friend and teammate says to me, “do you make a habit of spending your birthdays on planes… after breakups? It’s only the second time. It’s really how the dates worked out. With the timezone change, it means my birthday is going to last for 40 hours… I can celebrate on two continents! In two […]

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Becoming Less Awesome

Broken Skis

I love Penelope Trunk‘s blog. She’s not afraid to write about her life. And sometimes that’s positive, but the most interesting and hilarious and insightful posts are always about a negative – some way in which she screwed up, something she found difficult, relationships – that ended. The tagline is “advice at the intersection of […]

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Endings

as long as you remember me ::explored::

My uncle died last week. We knew it was coming, and this is the family thing I’ve been referring to of late. It was, as it always seems to be in these situations when someone leaves this world, their family, too soon, cancer. My family is not a close one, and I did not know […]

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Reinvention

I’ve never had much patience for those girls that reinvent themselves in their boyfriend’s image every relationship. You know, when they’re dating a beer-loving football fan they develop a taste for stella and when they’re dating a cricket lover and wine aficionado it’s all about a nice Beaujolais. Of course if you’re friends with someone […]

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Finding Balance and Doing Less

Back in March, I had a really terrible week. My paper got rejected and I realized I wasn’t going to be able to finish this semester, and the following day, my boyfriend and I broke up. It’s not uncommon for a paper to be rejected, however, frustratingly, the comments I got were mostly aspects of […]

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Life Without Facebook: Week 1

Last week, I deactivated my Facebook account. Why? There were a number of reasons, and I’d just found myself using it less and less. Since they rolled out the redesign the news feed seemed out of date (it might take days for something to show up), but the live feed was full of repetitive drivel […]

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Expat Adventures in Romance

I’m scheduling this post for Valentines day, when I’m sure the blogosphere (and everywhere else) will be full of romance. I’m not a big fan of Valentines day, myself. Last year I was in Japan with the Passive Aggressive, wondering if her inability to even go to the corner shop by herself would cause me […]

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Of Matchmaking and Meddling

I meet a lot of people who are, or have a hankering to be, entrepreneurs. I don’t, at all. Is that weird? I do, though, have a hankering to make stuff. And something that I’ve come back to multiple times is dating facilitation. I love matchmaking. I’m terrible at it, but I can’t seem to […]

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