Tag: social media

  • Self-promotion without the ick (thanks Claude)

    Self-promotion without the ick (thanks Claude)

    Bar and line chart, January to July 2026: monthly post volume per platform rising to a May peak, with coaching intros and DRI course sales both climbing as cumulative-share lines that inflect together around May.

    To be brutally honest, this (making Claude my social media manager) all started because I felt inadequate about self-promotion. And being an engineer, my response to feeling bad about something is to ask what I can build and what data would make the feeling go away.

    So at the start of the year I built social-brain — a CLI that pulls my content data off every platform once a week, formats it into a prompt, and lets Claude produce a report. Six months on, running it is one of my end-of-week rituals. Here’s what it taught me.

    The evolution

    At first I was really into the dashboard – charts, glanceable metrics. It looked very nice and gave me a feeling that I had accomplished something. But over time, as my Claude setup became much more Claude Code than Claude web, this got folded into that setup as one of the weekly checks. It runs without me, puts the report in GitHub, and I read it.

    That’s because what I actually needed was closer to a lab notebook. I wanted a longitudinal view that connected to everything else – something that could make suggestions on my content guidelines or cadence.

    The report is now structured markdown: what worked, what didn’t, cross-platform patterns, experiment verdicts, and proposed rule changes. I read it, argue with it, and confirm or kill each proposed change, writing those changes across the relevant skills. The graphs are a nice way to feel a vague sense of movement (or not). The text answers “what should I do differently?” and reminds me of things I’d encoded and then broke for some (or no) reason.

    The weekly cadence is useful. It generates actual suggestions. If I think they’re wrong – AI loves to over-generalise – I push back. If I hate them, I don’t do them. But more often than not I take something from it that I can act on.

    What it showed me

    Some things that six months of data in one place has made clear.

    Ups and downs balance out and the baseline still moves. Sometimes you write something quickly at the airport and it is surprisingly popular. Sometimes you sweat blood over something it feels like no-one bothers to read. If I’m evaluating my social media without data, my opinion is wildly skewed by however well my latest posts did – or didn’t – do. What’s encouraging: those ups and downs, taken over time, show meaningful growth.

    Traffic shifts. One thing I was able to see was how the balance of driving traffic to DRI shifted as it evolved. Jean has a large email list, and at first that dominated, but over time it’s evened out.

    LinkedIn is an amp for launches. We all complain about LinkedIn, but apparently people do read content there. It drives traffic to everything, and it drives sales of DRIYourCareer. It’s also one of the few places where self-promotion is acceptable.

    Newsletters are retention, not acquisition. I don’t promote my newsletter much, probably because I personally hate email, so it’s no surprise that email subscribers is a slow-moving metric for me. But those subscribers have good engagement – which means it isn’t an acquisition channel, it’s a relationship-building one.

    Building out new funnels. I’d been coaching on the side for years, but quietly. After leaving my job I finally had time to expand it, so in January I built a dedicated coaching page and, later, a specific Calendly event type for coaching intros. The numbers are still small month over month. Not everyone I meet with becomes a coaching client, and that’s fine – I always tell people I’m not in the business of capturing people. But it’s moving, and I can look at it over time rather than worrying on limited data.

    Pretty graphs

    The chart at the top shows volume up and to the right, with coaching intros and DRI course sales both climbing through the same window and both inflecting around May.

    Social Media Manager Claude is always telling me to add attribution tracking. Having worked in privacy, I keep pushing back – I think this chart is enough. Most content attribution, even when you can tag it, isn’t really known. It shows the last engagement, not everything that led up to it. Tagging gives the illusion of a causal machine, but doesn’t show you the longer term – which is what I care about. The person who read my blog for ages and then told someone about DRI – there’s no tagging that, even if I wanted to, which I don’t. I’ve always just tried to make as much public as possible and trust the value shows up in time.

    Self-promoting without the ick

    Over time, the question has become straightforward: how do I promote my own work without feeling gross about it?

    I think I’ve settled on an answer. Better data helps but it’s not the whole thing. I have to be okay with the promotion itself – believing in what I’m telling people about goes a long way. And I have to be able to see it’s overall working. Doing it while hating it and suspecting it’s pointless is unbearable. Doing it while okay with it, watching it move something real, is manageable. I’m never going to love it. But I can be adequate at it.

    I think this is where a lot of engineers get the ick, because we’ve all watched marketing graphs that looked great while the actual business results did not. Dashboards climbing, money moving – just to ad companies, not back into the business overall. Monopoly but with real money.

    That’s the game I don’t want to play. I’d rather pick a couple of things that are real – is this sustainable, did it land somewhere – and be honest that most of the rest is a set of things that convince me, partly through data and partly through emotionality, to keep trying.

    Five-panel diagram of the weekly social-brain loop: the CLI pulls the week's data, Claude generates a structured review, I confirm or kill each proposed rule, the surviving rules shape next week's content, and better inputs tighten the loop.

    If you want the code, social-brain is open and any feedback is welcome. The newsletter signup is around here somewhere too.

  • Social Media Coping Strategies

    Social Media Coping Strategies

    gargoyle with hands over eyes
    Credit: Wikipedia

    Over the last year the way I use social media has changed. It wasn’t dramatic. Just time passed… how much I was willing to share decreased, I started to feel anxious at times. The most vicious things normally end up in the moderation queue of my blog, and I could probably still quote things long since deleted.

    I passed this tip on a bunch of times over the last week so figured I would share more broadly: One thing that I have taken to doing, is if someone I don’t know engages me in a very 101 conversation and I choose to respond I tell myself “wow Cate, you’re being really nice to do that”. It’s framing it to be a favour, not an expectation. It’s how I remind myself that I don’t have to engage like that, and try and avoid feeling obliged to.

    If you have little tricks you use to deal with being a visible woman on social media I would love to hear them!

  • Finding More Women on Social Media

    Finding More Women on Social Media

    DATABASE at Postmasters, March 2009  DATA BASE is an Oxford English Dictionary with the word "DATA BASE" cut into it with the laser cutter.
    Credit: Flickr / Michael Mandiberg

    Every so often I find my twitter handle in a list that forms a response to some guy saying “who are some women I should follow on social media?”. Do these things work? I don’t know. I’ve compared notes with other women on how long it lasted when a prominent VC asked that question (for me, <24 hours), which tells me at least sometimes they are ineffectual.

    Besides that, there are different types of engagement, you can follow someone, but do you listen to them? And you can listen to them, but do you engage with them or their content? Typically we all go back and forth through these different modes, but if you just ignore, or perhaps worse, think “oh she’s moaning again” then this strategy clearly isn’t working.

    I think the best way to increase the number of women you encounter on social media is to seek out women whose opinions or work you are interested in.

    • Women developers of your favourite products.
    • Women contributors to open source projects you use.
    • Women who have written articles you liked.
    • Women who have given conference talks you enjoyed.
    • Women who have been retweeted into your timeline.

    This is harder than someone giving you a ready made list. For each one of these, there is a reason why:

    • There are few women developers, and some hide their affiliations for fear of threats.
    • There are even fewer women contributing to OSS, and many of them do so under gender neutral pseudonyms for safety.
    • Women’s content is shared less, and more likely to be (or be thought) women-focused.
    • Women are not fairly represented at conferences.
    • Women get retweeted less.

    But these aren’t insurmountable. And moreover, for me at least, it’s vastly more flattering to be noticed because of something cool I’ve built or written than because I’m female.

    As a cis-white-women I’m trying these strategies, and slowly improving the diversity of my feed, too.

     

  • It’s Not That Big a Deal

    It’s Not That Big a Deal

    odd one out
    Credit: Flickr / Michelle Friswell

    As an Angry Internet Feminist™, every incident I point out has multiple parts.

    1. I notice and say something.
    2. Tone policing, on whether I should have noticed it. After all, it’s not that big a deal.

    Someone uses “he” when they should say “they”? Not that big a deal.

    Mild objectification of women in something that should be professional? Not that big a deal.

    No women speaking at a conference? Not that big a deal.

    Because the thing is, each instance isolated is not really that big a deal. So one sentence wasn’t inclusive? So what. So one guy thought he was funny when he wasn’t? So what. So that one conference didn’t actually get the best speakers because they limited themselves to <50% of the population (usually no PoC either). So what?

    Here’s the thing that people who are telling me what should and should not bother me don’t seem to realize. It’s that I do understand that if it was that one thing, it wouldn’t be a big deal. But it probably isn’t even the only thing I’ve encountered that week.

    Because whatever your feelings about “they” as grammatically less correct, when I sit in a room full of men, and only men, and someone says “he” when they could say “they” I often look around the room, and I’m reminded that I don’t belong.

    Really, I get enough reminders. At the events featuring pizza and beer. When men think I’m lost, or something – anything – other than an engineer. Could you just change that word? Would it really be that big a deal?

    And yes, it just a word, it’s just a tasteless joke. But it’s in your marketing materials and presumably more than one person looked at those. So if that wasn’t a big deal… what will not be a big deal for something less externally facing?

    That guy, urgh that guy, who “jokingly” called his female colleague a bitch. What do you think he’s going to write on her performance review? Maybe that she’s “abrasive”.

    You know, when I left my Prestigious Tech Job to do something different, it wasn’t to be the unpaid, unappreciated teaching assistant of the Feminism 101 MOOC.

    Because these individual items that each taken individually are “not a big deal” have piled up and now I sit precariously atop a pile of tiny rocks, wondering when it will all come crashing down.

    These things do not happen in isolation. The culture that culminates in the death and rape threats (just the most recent example) is built on a culture where women do not get paid what they deserve, where they are objectified, marginalized, and, most of all, ignored.

    Can we talk about humour for a moment? Because I’m tired of these things being “jokes”. This guy thought that rape threats were satire. I will now explain why they are not funny. Humour requires an element of the unexpected, and there is nothing unexpected about a woman with an opinion being threatened with rape. It is an alarmingly normal occurrence. Online harassment is an expected part of being an Angry Internet Feminist™, and it is hard to distinguish between the guy who calls me some obscene word and is “joking” and the one who has intent.

    So we add two factor authentication (did you know, Twitter has it?), and install security software on our websites. I have only experienced the very mildest levels of harassment, but make no doubt, if I was truly under threat, I have a plan for where I would go, and enough air miles and money to get me there. Call it paranoia, if you want. I call it being prepared.

    There is no humour there. There is just yet another woman who is paying the price, in harassment, for having an opinion. For calling stuff out, when she saw it.

    The data says that 40% women drop out of tech careers in the first 10 years. I didn’t know many other women on my university course, but of those I do, I am the only one still building systems and writing code. One is an environmental economist. Another a BA. I hear one became an artist, cool.

    And I’m sure each of them went towards something compelling, to them. I’m sure they each made the decision that worked for them. I hope they have interesting careers and fulfilled lives.

    But they didn’t stay.

    Against the evidence, my generation of women techies, we thought we were different. We thought things were better, because sexual harassment and even assault was no longer a normal part of the working day (although don’t be mistaken – it happens). We thought things would be different, and we just needed to work hard and be awesome. We were wrong.

    I’m reaching this point in my career where I’m starting to see my peers drop out. Make their backup plans. I wrote this article about knowing someday I would leave tech, and so many women said “this is how I feel!” and a couple of men said “wow it’s really bad that women feel this way, maybe we should do something”.

    Because I hear variations on the same story, again, and again, and again.

    It is hard to fix structural equality. And like many hard things the first step is admitting there is a problem. Could you just say “they” instead of “he”? Pay an expert to review your marketing materials? Could you just do the work to get a more balanced line-up at your conference? Stop making “satirical” rape threats? Could you stop telling me what should, or should not bother me? Please?

    I’ll tell you what I think is a big deal. It’s when I watch a woman who I know to be brilliant, slowly lose her joy of making. It’s when I watch her give up caring about her career, and just go through the motions, because frankly showing up every day is hard enough. It’s when I see her leave.

  • Exponential Growth of Social Media

    I think this is pretty awesome. Shows how fast content is being created – it’s incredible!

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    Original blog post and details/sources.