Tag: connection

  • 2024 Highlights

    2024 Highlights

    As the year wraps up I spent some time thinking about how it went, and what I’m hoping for in 2025.

    Personal

    My word for 2024 was connection – a correction from a multi year pandemic that flowed neatly into [living under a rock] writing a book. I wanted to prioritize being a better friend, and rebuild my sense of community locally. As a guiding principle throughout the year, this was so helpful, and I feel dramatically better about this aspect of my life than I did a year ago. I’m looking forward to more connection in 2025.

    This was also the year that we finally finished the multi year building project of renovating the attic. It’s been a bit of an ordeal for a number of reasons that I won’t get into, but super happy to have the house the way we want it with an extra bedroom and bathroom, and moving things around such that we can each have an office.

    Adventures

    • A wedding in Sydney, where I got to see many old friends from when I lived there. A brief but fantastic layover in Hong Kong. 10 incredible days in Bali.
    • A weekend in London for my birthday, we saw the Sister Act musical (amazing), the Cruel Intentions musical (pure nostalgia), caught up with friends, and saw some fantastic exhibitions at the V&A and the Tate.
    • A weekend at Castlemartyr for the art show (beautiful).
    • A trip to the Inchydoney spa (2023’s birthday present from my parents).
    • Another weekend in London, this time to see Nils Frahm (and also many friends).
    • A brief overnight trip to Glengarrif for a friend’s birthday, we took in Garinish island and the ever weird, ever wonderful, Ewe Experience.
    • A week with my parents visiting Killarney (the Muckross hotel, right in my favorite part of the national park) and returning to the beautiful Liss Ard estate.
    • Another wedding, this time in Dehradun, India, with a few days in Chandigarh (to see the incredible Nek Chand’s stunning rock garden) and an all too brief but fantastic stop in Delhi, where we saw Humayun’s tomb and did some important shopping for Hamper Season.
    • One night at the Cliff House in Ardmore for Bas’ birthday. Absolutely gorgeous.
    • A few days in Venice for the biennale, always amazing. Stayed at the wonderful Ca’ Bonfadini. You can read about it in a (rare) public edition of Where the Hell is Cate.
    • A brief visit to Sheen Falls (beautiful) for Lorge chocolate for Hamper Season.
    • A weekend in Dublin for the ballet and to see friends.

    Professional

    2024 will always be the year my book came out, in print in April, and as an audio book in November – a product of years of work. Aside from locking myself away [at Castlemartyr] for a brutal week of edits in January, and having to read it 2-3 more times during proofs, most of the work was done and I got to think about what comes next. Still no answers there but I’m trying to give myself time!

    I didn’t do a great job at promoting the book, but I did do a number of podcasts, a book signing at LeadDev, and a talk at Leading Eng. I have some more things planned for next year already, so that’s exciting.

    This year I also took on another advisory role with Twill. I’m really excited about this, because I find the product compelling – currently hiring feels a bit like candidate and hiring manager AIs talking to each other, and it’s tough to separate the signal from the noise – making for a bad experience on both sides. Twill cuts through that directly to well qualified, vetted candidates. I also just genuinely love advisory work, and am super happy to have another opportunity to do it.

    For my own professional development, I took the Co-Active Leadership Workshop – which was really great and I want to try and figure out the time and money for the full program. I also did my first back of the room assisting for Fundamentals, which was interesting. I’m fascinated by the Co-Active facilitation model, and the idea of experiential learning.

    I passed the four year mark at DuckDuckGo, which was interesting – in previous jobs this was the time at which I decided to move on. I thought about it, of course, partly because I think it’s healthy to think about this every year, and partly because passing the 4 year milestone for the first time invited deeper thought. Ultimately though, I decided to stay put because 1) I’m working on something huge and interesting, 2) I’m enjoying being with a team I’ve built up and the work of good-to-great, and 3) this market is terrible, why subject myself to it unnecessarily.

    2025?

    I’m not a big planner and I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. I do like the act of setting a word and an intention. For 2025, I picked “health”.

    First and most obviously, this is about prioritizing physical health. 2024 was a bit up and down here, and I would like to be more consistent.

    Secondly, I think there’s a broader meaning here – about healthy behaviours and patterns. I’ve been thinking a lot about garbage in garbage out for the mind – this stage of capitalism is so intent on making us consumers of low value content, and I know I personally need better quality inputs there to have better quality thinking myself.

    As always, the word starts as an intention and my experience with it will no doubt evolve over the course of the year. I’m looking forward to seeing where this one goes!

    Thanks as always for following along; wishing you a wonderful 2025.

  • Three Core Ideas to Make Remote Work, Work

    Three Core Ideas to Make Remote Work, Work

    I have been working for distributed companies for over 5 years – long before this pandemic malarkey and everyone becoming a “remote work expert”. The reality of the past 18 months for many people has been a lot of terrible remote work. Including for me at times – I love remote work in “normal times”, but in the darkest timeline I have never met any of my current coworkers, struggled to keep a normal schedule, and felt caged in (even in my beautiful, purposely designed home office).

    Throughout all of this I’ve known that normally I love remote work, I just hated the pandemic situation, but I have so much empathy for those who have concluded – based on this experience – that remote work is not for them.

    DuckDuckGo, where I work currently, is fully distributed, and we hire globally. The native apps team (my team) runs from Russia, through Europe, to the West Coast of Canada and the US. Prior to DuckDuckGo, I worked at Automattic, another fully distributed company where I led teams of 20-40 people, again based all over the world.

    Remote work, works – when we are intentional about it. My three core principles of remote work are:

    • Embrace async.
    • Enable autonomy.
    • Build connection.

    1. Embrace async

    Why: synchronous time is more expensive. It was always more expensive but in a remote context it’s explicitly more expensive. In a distributed context it can be prohibitively expensive because timezones mean someone is taking the call late at night. Moving things that don’t need to be synchronous to asynchronous reduces meeting overhead, and makes for a more equitable experience outside the predominant timezones.

    Embracing async means moving to writing as much as possible, especially things like status updates and announcements. Those do not need to be real time. Embrace written communication outside your chat app. I cannot stress this enough – Slack messages are not asynchronous. 1:1, fine. But in a channel, categorically not. Someone a few timezones behind will wake up, start their day, and find the conversation has happened and moved on without them ever getting the opportunity to be part of it.

    At DuckDuckGo, we use Asana to communicate asynchronously; Automattic uses custom blogging software. I’ve seen other companies use GitHub. I don’t think it really matters what is used, provided that everyone uses the same thing, and there is some way for people to opt into what is relevant to them (versus absolutely everything). Email can be used in this way, and might be better than a chat app, but email is not transparent, has no single source of truth and is not meaningfully shareable, making it a bad option overall.

    Thinking asynchronously will shape the way you communicate. Prioritizing clear writing and consistently structured updates will make async communication more efficient. The first step I suggest towards more async communication is to delete your boring meetings! Replace any useful part of them with text based updates, and reclaim your time for more impactful activities (or Netflix, no judgement here).

    2. Enable autonomy

    Why: People need to be able to get on with things when they are working, and not have to rely on other people being around. If you’re a manager, you need to be able to let people get on with things without having to constantly intervene or answer questions.

    Enabling autonomy means getting organized about your communication of priorities, resources, helping people understand how decisions get made and what parameters they operate within, and trusting people to get things done.

    Documentation helps a lot; it helps people help themselves. For example, our onboarding is well documented in checklists, so that from someone’s first day they can make progress on things, regardless of who is around – key to onboarding people across timezones.

    It’s also important to document decisions. Even if a decision happened in a meeting, it’s important to write it down (see also: async) so that people who weren’t in the meeting can still be aware. Think also about how decisions get made, because when you understand the parameters it’s easier to move things along. Operate with specific checkpoints, such as a tech design review, rather than random meetings and drawn out code reviews.

    Part of enabling autonomy is being organized. If you need input, you need to plan for it so you don’t get stuck (this is where the checkpoints are useful). If you need to give input, you need to be proactive in sharing information upfront and be clear about your availability.

    Autonomy is often seen through an individualistic lens, but team-level autonomy is a product of healthy collective practices. As individuals we don’t just get autonomy we need to make sure that we support other people’s autonomy.

    3. Build Connection

    Why: Better team relationships make for better team functioning.

    It might seem from point 1 that I am anti-meeting. I am not, I am anti-boring-meetings-that-could-be-replaced-with-a-document. In practice, this does mean I am anti most meetings. The reality is that we do not build any kind of human connection pretending to listen to status updates, and the value of meetings in offices for building connection was probably largely in the time before and after.

    Office culture builds structure around work and takes connection for granted. Good remote culture is the opposite: build structure around the connection, and let the work happen.

    Once you’ve deleted your boring meetings, you’ve freed up time on your calendar for fun. Play games! Share feelings! Have adhoc 1:1s! One of my favourite meetings each week starts with an extremely random question. Prioritizing building connection is particularly important during onboarding, as it is what helps people feel a sense of belonging.

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    Making remote work work requires some rethinking of what you’re doing and why. The outcomes don’t change, but the way you get to them might. The good news is, even if you return to the office, there is still value in async communication, more autonomy and team connectedness. So why not give them a try?